Today i was told "How am i supposed to care for someone who doesn't want to be cared for."
Well that hurt, but thats completely true.
I think after anyone has been hurt they just want to push everybody away instead of giving them a chance. Of course that's the best option, that's the hurt-free option. I try not to get too close to anyone, but sometimes it just happens. Then you get to the complicated part where you start getting those feelings that you never wanted, and now what? Well now you have to look like the heartless bitch who messes with guys feelings. When in reality the only wrong thing you did, was let your heart out run your head.
It's not the fact, that we, the broken, enjoy being so bitter and un-trusting towards guys. We just had to fix ourselves somehow when we were very first heart broken, and building this wall that no one can knock down was how we did it. The wall was formed from hatred, molded with hurt, glued together by the raging knowledge that this heartbreak will NOT happen again.
And now you have this challenge of hiding your feelings, crunching them in the very back of your head, hoping and wishing that they will eventually go away. Sometimes you will succeed and everything an carry on normally without anyone getting hurt. But sometimes your master plan of being heartless and feeling-free, wont turn out the way you hoped. That's when the pushing people away part comes into play.
Pushing people away is definitely one of my fortes. Im not proud of it, but i am good at it.
And now were back to my opening statement, you're right i dont want to be cared for. And that might hurt your feelings, and that might make you upset and angry, but at the end of the day someone who is broken should never try to build new bridges when they are still trying to piece together the damage from the last one.
So you're right, i don't want to be cared for, and yes i might be missing out on something amazing, and yes living a life that involves pushing everyone away is miserable, but don't be fooled.. Just because im single, doesn't mean im looking. Just because im not in the right mind set to give anyone a chance just yet, doesnt mean that i wont eventually be ready. And just because i foolishly had feelings for a moment, doesnt mean that im willing to put aside the part of my life where im finding myself, and living for only me, to try to pursue you. And you can call me a bad person for that, you can call me heartless for that but just remember that no one can build up new walls together with someone who hasnt even knocked down their own yet.
Fools rush in.
The wise piece themselves back together slowly but surly and learn to love themselves before ever even considering letting someone else love them.
Love love love :)
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